There is a time when you notice the role reversal between you and your parent. Suddenly, your parent calls you for advice, your parent needs your emotional support, you hear that chores are hard or impossible to complete, and other needs and challenges are being voiced to you.
At the same time, you have probably reached middle adulthood (40y-65y) which means you care for your children, possibly grandchildren. You are still working, possibility facing financial stress as you send your kids to college. This stage can be psychologically stressing as physical changes take place such as wrinkles, loss of hair, gray hair, weakened muscles, hearing loss, declining vision, and possible medical conditions such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and etc.
When caring for an aging parent you are at risk of feeling “lost in the situation”. Think about it, your kids and your parent/s constantly need your advice, assistance, and support. At times, their needs can increase to a point where you forget, or unable to practice self-care. The absence of self-care can lead to mood changes, poor self-image, chronic fatigue, work performance and can even compromise relationships with others.
Caregiving is a privilege, only when practiced in a healthy manner. When caring for another person in a healthy manner, we can fulfil the person’s needs and our own personal needs. Most importantly, we are able to enjoy the merit of our hard work in improving our parent’s quality of life. Caring for an aging parent is an opportunity to give-back, show appreciation for the life they gave you, strengthen the bond between you and your parent, and collect precious memories.
So, how do I care in a healthy manner?
- Identify your parent’s needs and wishes
- Prioritize your parent’s needs and wishes, with safety being # 1
- Identify what’s “feasible” for you to assist with
- Focus on one task at a time
- Stay tuned to your emotions and take a break when needed
- Practice self-care on an ongoing basis
- Maintain open and effective communication with your parent
- Encourage your parent to partake in simple tasks
- Read about the challenges that your parent face
- Ask a professional all related questions to clear your understanding in a certain area, knowledge is power
- Delegate responsibilities to other family members, it’s a teamwork
- Utilize community resources
Finally, remember that there are professionals who do this work for a living. Our private case managers and patient advocates assist with in-home assessment, coordination of care, advocacy, and ensuring proper communication with family members. We work as a team to ensure the best quality of service. To connect with one of our case managers please call us at 305-900-7203 you can also email info@rkcaregroup.com
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